“In Jerusalem David took more wives and became the father of more sons and daughters.” 1 Ch 14:3
As far as wives are concerned, I believe one is better than two, or three, or more. If two or more wives are better than one, the Lord would have created more wives for the first man; thus getting more than one is a form of rebellion against the Creator, claiming that his original design is less than perfect. Therefore we create for ourselves more problems, not fewer, more misery, not less, by having more than one wife, or husband.
"Sir, give me this water, so I will not be thirsty nor come all the way here to draw.” Of course this can be read metaphorically. The Samaritan woman’s thirst for love and happiness wasn’t quenched by having six husbands. She would have been better off by working on her first one, and her shot for fulfillment in life would have been much greater.
The desire to have more than one wife is obviously a sensual one; but the strength to stay with one woman is spiritual in nature. If given the choice, most carnal men will always want to have more than one wife; but men who are controlled by the Spirit will always cling to the wife of their youth. “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth,” we read in the book of Proverbs.
What’s the difference between the two, then? It lies in the basic understanding of love, one being sensual and the other spiritual; the former seeks it from the body and the latter from the Spirit. It takes an entire lifetime to convert sensual love into spiritual, yet many people lose their patience by forsaking their first love and replacing it with another, so they never learn what love is at the end.
Why isn’t there marriage in heaven? We may be curious about our Lord Jesus’ statement. Perhaps the romantic love in heaven is spiritual in nature; therefore a relationship in the flesh is no longer needed. If we reason along this line, our relationship with our wives will dissolve in the heavenly realm if there is no spiritual bonding between the two. So it really doesn’t matter whether we have one or many wives; all things flesh will be ended with the end of our flesh.
It’s God’s mercy that he allows us to have one wife or one husband and gives us an entire lifetime to work on our relationship with our spouse to achieve spiritual unity, so that our bonding with our soul mate will be an eternal one. Looking through the spectrums of spirituality and eternity, the ones who take more than one wife are not to be envied, they are to be pitied, for they simply don’t have the time or energy to simultaneously build a spiritual bond with more than one woman. Envy among the many wives certainly would make it impossible to build any kind of spiritual bonding within the marriage. All the women Solomon, and David to some extent, managed to collect were merely sex partners and children-producing “machines.” They might have had many wives, but in essence they had none. The ones who are not content to have just one wife will end up with no wife, both here on earth below and in heaven above.