“Why do you, the king’s son, look so haggard morning
2 Sam 13:3
As if Amnon needed any
reminding that he was the king’s son with all the trappings and entitlement,
Jonadab said to him: “Why do you, the king’s son, look so haggard morning after
Being a prince of a nation,
Amnon could have gone after anything he desired to possess; therefore there was
no reason for him to feel deprived of anything valuable. Yet he was lusting
after a girl who was his half-sister, forbidden fruit that was kept away from
Getting a hold of Tamar became
Amnon’s obsession and the more the girl was kept away from him, the more his
desire for her increased. Even though his desire for his beautiful sister is
morally repugnant to most people, the arrogant prince simply refused to walk
away from her and shut down the temptation for good.
There is nothing wrong in looking
“haggard,” even for a prince. Don’t we all have to learn to take it, either
graciously or unwillingly, when some things in life don’t go our way? When
victory becomes unattainable, we ought to consider surrendering. We know what
will happen to us if we continue to kick against the goads.
“Being the king’s son, you
don’t have to deny yourself anything,” Jonadab said to Amnon.
There was a valuable lesson
that Amnon had never learned growing up in David’s household. As far as he
could recall, his father had always been the leader of an army and highly
esteemed by people. Being David’s son, Amnon seemed to have developed a sense
of pride and entitlement, as well. Besides, whatever he wanted as a boy, he
often received, and he would pout and fuss if he didn’t get what he wanted. The
boy was obviously spoiled, not necessarily by his father, but by all his maids
Very rarely did people say no
to the prince; therefore the man seldom had to say no to himself. Taking
rejection from people was something quite foreign to Amnon, which was really a
disadvantage to him, since life would inevitably deal him many setbacks and
“Some of my patients think
they are entitled not to have any pain,” my son complained. “Some physical
discomforts are just inevitable and we just have to learn to take it,” the
I guess Michael was right.
When pain becomes unavoidable, we just have to learn to cope with it the best
we can. Obviously the apostle Paul didn’t continue to plead for his thorn in
the flesh to be taken away after he asked the Lord to do so three times.
Had Amnon not had a strong
sense of entitlement for being the prince, he would have quickly walked away
from her sister and taken it as one of those regrets of life, period.